Here’s a teaser picture before I get into the story of her arrival:
For those of you interested in how we picked Riley’s name. We picked the name Riley is after her great-grandmother Rita Grad (Marc’s maternal grandmother) who passed away about six weeks before we found out we were expecting Riley. Madison is after my grandmother, Miriam Albom (who passed away when I was 7) and Marc’s other grandmother Marian Zimmerman (who passed away right when Marc and I met). These were three women who were extremely important to Marc and I and I know Riley will do justice to their names and memories. I can only describe Riley as pure perfection right down to her clubfeet (I’m sure most parents think this about their babies but Marc and I feel so blessed that she is here and healthy after all the scares we had during pregnancy).
So now I will bore you with the story of her arrival (it was quite comical) and her first three days before you get to see more pictures of her. It’s a long blog so brace your self and no cheating and scrolling straight the pictures. Our Sunday started out quite ordinary; we woke up, had some breakfast and got ready for our friend’s Greg and Lyndsay’s son, Xavier’s, first birthday party. I was feeling kind of off all day but didn’t think anything of it since I had just been to the Doctor on Friday and both he and my OB said I could go into labor any minute or I could last the rest of the pregnancy, there was just no way of knowing. I’d also been feeling crummy for the last few weeks of the pregnancy so I just thought it would be a bad day. I noticed my contractions were getting a bit stronger throughout the day but they still weren’t painful or too regular so I just sort of ignored them and we went to the party and celebrated Xavier’s birthday. II even had our friends Jenny and Josh feel my belly during a contraction (their little Jake is due in June and Riley can’t wait to meet her new friend). We got home around 3:00 in the afternoon from the party and I laid down for a while to read and watch TV. I was starting to feel more off but figured I was tired since I hadn’t been sleeping well for about 2 weeks now. At about 5:00 Marc came down and I got up to make some dinner. I cooked up a fabulous meal of fajitas, Mexican rice and refried beans, a true Mexican feast. I also spoke to my brother and at 6:15 sat down to eat dinner. I was about halfway through my taco at 6:30 when I said to Marc, “Oh crap, I either just peed myself or my water just broke.” I had just gone to the bathroom so I was pretty sure I didn’t pee myself but I got up and went to the bathroom and that’s when the flood started.
While I sat on the toilet gushing fluid, Marc called my Dr. who of course was not on call that night and we headed to the hospital after he attempted to clean up dinner (imagine rice and beans dried to the pots and pans) and I got Homer ready, leaking fluid as I did it all. I sat on three towels as we headed to Walnut Creek but the fluid was just a steady flow and I ended up soaking through two of the towels on half hour drive up to the hospital. When we got to John Muir in Walnut Creek at about 7:15, I was soaked, it looked like I had jumped in a kiddy pool, Marc tried to get me a wheel chair as I walked onto the elevator to head up to Labor & Delivery. When we got to Labor and Delivery they were expecting us and they got us right into the room. Marc was sort of like a bull in a China shop, I was so calm but I kept apologizing for leaking water all over, looking back, I am sure they are used to it. I wasn’t really in any pain, just feeling uncomfortable from being soaked, already my stomach was so much smaller. Our room at John Muir in Labor and Delivery was very nice. It had a very large, nice TV (of course Marc and I are excited about this) and a pull out for Marc. I wasn’t in any pain when we got there, just weird losing fluid all the time (in fact this was probably the worst part of the experience), I had no idea there was so much fluid! They took all my vitals, I told them I wanted an epidural eventually, and they asked me some questions. We were there about an hour when my contractions started to get stronger and more painful. I continued to get more and more uncomfortable.
At about 8:00 PM I was 4cm dilated and about 80% effaced with Riley in a -1 position. At about 9PM my contractions were getting really uncomfortable, our labor and delivery nurse was amazing and she came in and told me that they might be doing an emergency C-Section on someone so if I wanted an epidural I might have to wait a little longer. With that in mind at about 9:45 I asked for my epidural. Before 10:15 the anesthesiologist was in our room giving me the epidural. All I can say is an epidural was like heaven, I still felt all the contractions but it was more of an annoyance rather than painful. I have no idea how or why everyone doesn’t get an epidural, after that I didn’t care about or notice anything. At about 11:00 I was feeling awesome and I actually asked the nurse why anyone would ever do this without the epidural. She examined me and I was 9cm and 90% effaced. Things were moving quickly and I still needed to get a dose of antibiotics since my Group B strep test hadn’t come back yet!
My mom arrived around 11:30 after getting a call at 6:30 that my water broke and getting on a plane at 7:30 to Oakland. (She gets the award – we’re convinced she was living at the airport for the past few weeks anticipating the call.) Like geniuses we forgot our camera in the rush so my mom had to swing by the house and get those for us! Who forgets cameras to the birth of their first born! Marc ordered a pizza in to the hospital since he didn’t get dinner and ran into the perinatologist who diagnosed Riley with clubfoot and he stopped in to say hi and said he was around all night and into the morning and wanted to see Riley when she was born. Anyway, at about 1:00 I was examined again and I was 10cm and fully effaced with Riley at a +1 position. The nurse said it was still too early to push since she was only at a +1 so we tried to take a nap before pushing. My contractions were too intense and close together to be successful and at 2:15 she came in to exam me again and had me do a practice push because she could see Riley’s hair. I pushed one more time without the Doctor for real and then she decided Riley was coming quickly so she called the Doctor to come to the hospital. At 2:30 the Doctor arrived and we started pushing. My contractions had gotten much weaker at this point and were spread very far apart so it took about an hour and 4 or 5 pushes before Riley was born. As her head came out the Doctor who delivered her said, “Whoa she looks just like daddy.” And a few seconds later she was out, born with TBS playing in the background. I’m really not surprised she was born at 3:26AM, her awake and active time in the womb was between 3-4 so it was only fitting she was born in this window and with the Fresh Prince of Bel Air playing in the background. I remember seeing her but not hearing her cry and I panicked a bit since I knew she was early. Then I saw her mouth open like she was trying to scream and after a few suctions she was screaming the most beautiful sound. And there she was, it was amazing. I didn’t even think about her clubfeet in those few minutes after her birth. It wasn’t until she was in the warmer and I noticed her pinkies and said to Marc that her pinkies didn’t look too crooked that I realized I never looked to see if she really did have clubfeet. Since she was kicking and flailing about, I caught a glimpse of her feet and saw that they were indeed clubfeet but in those moments I didn’t care (and I still don’t).
The whole experience was very surreal. I’ve been dreading labor and delivery for several months now but the whole experience wasn’t so bad, probably because of my epidural. I imagined a team of Doctors and Nurses in the room but there were only four people in the room besides me and Marc. I imagined chaos and commotion and everything was so calm and relaxed. They called in a pediatrician in addition to the pediatric nurse since Riley was considered premature. They put Riley on my chest for a minute and let us meet each other and then moved her to the warmer to examine her and clean her up and swaddle her, then it was back to my chest. Feeling her pressed up against my chest was the most amazing feeling in the world. After a couple of hours of recovery we were moved to our post partum room. We saw our perinatologist, who predicted her weight exactly to the ounce and he checked out her feet and said hello to her then we were wheeled to our room. All of the nurses and doctors at John Muir were amazing! I highly recommend anyone having a baby in the Bay Area to do it at John Muir, the level of care we got was truly amazing and they were so attentive and so helpful and very compassionate about Riley’s clubfeet. My Doctor came by that morning and a pediatrician came by again to check on Riley. I told my Doctor delivery was way easier then the last month or so of the pregnancy, I’m sure the fact that Riley was not even 5 pounds helped! We both got the ok to go home the next day, Tuesday. All of the doctors and nurses were impressed by how mature Riley was for her gestational age and size, that’s my girl! They said she acts more like a full term, 7 or 8 pound baby. We decided to stay an extra night because I was having trouble nursing Riley, she just gets so tuckered out by sucking so we stayed one more day to get it down. Our room was so tiny that I started to get claustrophobic so the nurses moved us to a room that they usually use for C-Section or sick moms. It was twice as big as our original room.
We were so fortunate to get some visitors too. Jenny and Josh came Monday night to meet Riley and then Lyndsay, Courtney and Xavier came to meet her on Tuesday. Unfortunately, Xavier couldn’t come in because they don’t allow kids under 14 into post partum unless they are siblings but it was so nice to have our friends come and visit and to meet Riley. It was hard to believe that exactly a year prior we were visiting Greg and Lyndsay at the same hospital to meet Xavier for the first time. Riley also got to watch her first IU Basketball game with Mommy on Tuesday, they lost terribly but Riley and I had a good conversation about attending IU like Mommy when she is older.
Wednesday we headed home. We weren’t even out of the parking lot of the hospital when Marc and I got hit by a strong smell; it seems our little Riley pooped in Marc’s new car (definitely Marc’s daughter!) It was pretty funny, Marc said “Riley don’t you know this is a no pooping/farting car.” Suddenly the new car smell was a thing of the past. It was so nice to get home, Marc had a bouquet of roses and my push present – a Movado watch, with a card waiting for me on the table and of course it was wonderful to see my Homer who couldn’t quite believe his momma was in front of him. After I got a few licks from the Homer we brought Riley in to meet him. He didn’t show too much interest in her, he gave her a few licks but was more interested in licking Marc and I. When Riley had her first meltdown poor Homer started to shake, I think he thought he was in trouble or caused the cry. We’ve had a bit of a behavioral issue (think poopy car story) but other than that Homer has been quite the trooper considering the fact that we were both around pretty much all the time for the last 3 weeks and then disappeared and then brought in a strange thing. Wednesday night wasn’t too bad, we put Riley in our room with a sleep positioner in bed so it was easy to comfort her and feed her. She had one meltdown after her last feeding of the night and I picked her up and held her to my chest and she fell asleep right away, sometimes a girl just needs her mommy! As she is coming out of her meltdown she does this adorable thing where she makes her mouth into an O share and coos a few times before she conks out. I almost like the meltdowns because I know those are coming at the end! And it is just too cute!
We feel so fortunate to have such a wonderful little girl, Marc and I look at her in awe that we made something so perfect. She is perfect in everyway and makes all of the bumps along the pregnancy worth every minute. I thought her clubfeet would matter but we hardly notice them and Riley is such a joy. She is so easy to console and she has the most adorable facial expressions. She definitely knows what she likes and doesn’t like and let’s us know about it, I call her my 4lbs of Fury because when she is not happy she lets us know about it. Needless to say we are completely in love with this little girl.
So that’s the story of how Riley decided to enter the world, I can hardly believe that she is finally here but I also have a hard time remembering life before her. It's so weird how I feel I have known her my whole life and yet she is only 5 days old.
As promised here are some pictures of Riley from her first days of life:
Proud Papa!
Bright Eyes!
Hands are yummy:
Daddy's Little Girl:
Riley Holding Daddy's Hand during their nap:
Eyes Wide Open:
Almost got the "O" face from her that I love:
That's it for now! Sorry for the super long blog this time!